When hooking up with a stranger, which one do you prefer: you go to his place or he goes to yours?
Each one has its own cons.
If you go to his place, you’ll be placing yourself in his turf. He could be a serial killer for all you know and have knives hidden in every corner, and you’ll just disappear without a trace. Or he could have hidden cameras all over the place and you’d see yourself in the next xtube video you watch. Or simply, you’re the one who still has to go home after an exhausting five-rounder.
On the other hand, if he goes to your place, you’ll be letting a stranger into your home, which is always risky. He could kill you and take all your stuff. Or he can get obsessed with you after you gave the performance of your life and he can stalk you. Or simply, you’re the one who has to clean up after.
Those are just some of the things that dissuade me. I'm sure you have your own issues with each case.
What I usually do is I tell him to get a room in some motel or just get on with it in some public place so that we’d have equal vulnerability.
But assuming that the only choices are his place or yours, which one would you pick?
i have no experience with that, but for me, setting a place were you're both vulnerable is better,
ReplyDeleteyeah, that's the ideal scenario. the downside to that, though, is you'll have to pay.
Deleteid rather rent a room.. it's a neutral gound for me and for both of us :-)
ReplyDeletenot following instructions ka naman eh. sabi nang kung walang ibang choice eh. =P
Deleteeh bakit ba? ayaw ko sa mga choices mo eh.. kaya yun ang pinili ko.. LOL
DeleteMy place. Hahaha.
ReplyDeletesiguraduhin mong malinis ang bahay mo ha. haha.
DeleteAng tanong, no strings attached ba, o may future with the bedmate?
ReplyDeletewala pang ganyang eksena. first time mo pa lang siyang maka hookup. practically a stranger, like some guy you met in PR or grindr or in a train. lol.
DeleteI'd pick going to his place. I want to avoid nosy neighbors from prying on my personal business. and just like what you've said I don't want him to stalk or blackmail me after. I only allowed one person in our house, and I have to sneak him in at midnight when everybody was sleeping. I had known him for 2 months that's why I know he's no crazy person.
ReplyDeletethat makes sense. how long did it take you to decide that he's not a psychopath?
Deletea couple of months. he was one of my patients.
Delete"...or just get on with it in some public place so that we’d have equal vulnerability."
ReplyDeleteThis bothers me. haha Ikaw na ang exhibitionist. lolz
you should try it. it's neutral ground and you don't have to pay. =P
DeleteI really wouldn't care as long as I got some lovin'.
ReplyDeletei wud always choose a public place, exciting. ahahaha. but since it's not one of the choices. i wud rather go to his place but not before i inform a confidante as to where i'm going and what i'm gonna do and with whom. at least they wud have a lead on the serial killer/psychopath. lols
ReplyDeleteDone both. I'd rather do it in his place, in fact konti pa lang naiuwi ko. Ayokong mapagusapan sa boarding house dati LOL
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