When hooking up with a stranger, which one do you prefer: you go to his place or he goes to yours?
Each one has its own cons.
If you go to his place, you’ll be placing yourself in his turf. He could be a serial killer for all you know and have knives hidden in every corner, and you’ll just disappear without a trace. Or he could have hidden cameras all over the place and you’d see yourself in the next xtube video you watch. Or simply, you’re the one who still has to go home after an exhausting five-rounder.
On the other hand, if he goes to your place, you’ll be letting a stranger into your home, which is always risky. He could kill you and take all your stuff. Or he can get obsessed with you after you gave the performance of your life and he can stalk you. Or simply, you’re the one who has to clean up after.
Those are just some of the things that dissuade me. I'm sure you have your own issues with each case.
What I usually do is I tell him to get a room in some motel or just get on with it in some public place so that we’d have equal vulnerability.
But assuming that the only choices are his place or yours, which one would you pick?